The defination of fate is ... Destiny..
Everyone is searching for one, or working hard to be successful be it now or heareafter.Everyday is a learning experience,You get to meet new people, learn new things and so on and so forth.
For a while, My day to day living has been a routine i.e.
1. Get up in the morning, say your morning prayers.
2.Get ready for work, Drive to work
3.Back home, Cleaning, dinner with family(Siblings and mum),prayers,
4. Sleep and back again the next day. to step 1.
Alhamdulilah, Its not that am complaining I actually appreciate it.
To say the least, its been boring and i wanted to have an adventure.So I ventured to the internet and online( MATCH MAKING SITES) Hi5 and the likes.
One day i came across one of my friends profile and his list of friends included my best friends brother's photo. So i decided to drop a line to his message center and say hi, to check if he could recognise me.
So my routine was normal, once a while check out my page to see who viewed and whos on there.
A couple months later, he replied back. Unfortunately, he wasnt my friends brother but hes the actual cousin.He told me alot of people tend to confuse them alot, because of their resemblance.He was actually living in the same city with the guy i thought he was.
I decided to reply back and apologise for the mistake i made, and that he should disregard everything i said. So every email i write he responds and vise versa, We actually started to bond as email buddies. we exchanged emails every day maybe even 3 times a day.
That was weird considering he is a stranger. I could say a perfect stranger. We seem to have the same interests; and then came the phone numbers request since we got tired of emailing and we seem to have a lot to discuss.
So he called me, we talked. Per his conversation he sound very nice,his views in politics, religion,hobbies.Wehave the same likes and dislikes. He is such a perfect stranger..
I havent met him, just saw his pictures online and we have chatted several times via webcam.I am telling you this guy is the whole package..
I just dont want to rush things to pursue this relationship to another level.My heart wants to do that, but my mind tells me you have been broken hearted so many times before so watch your step. I just like him alot. He is even the one who introduced me to blogging and I thank him for that.There is no day that passes by that we dont either talk by phone, or send text message. We talk for hours and feels like we have been only talking for less than 5 minutes. We never get tired of each other or even bored per me, dont know about him. I could say he is my best friend right now.
The only problem we are currently facing is that fact that we live in two different cities.I live in Minneapolis and he lives in Atlanta.
He wants me to come visit him, He is even willing to pay my plane ticket back and forth.
I live with a strict family and travelling is really hard for me. He could come to see me, but i would have to be a good host and roll the red carpet for him, for her will be my VIP guest.With the curfews am currently having, I dont think that would be a good idea.
I am also scared of what if i make the wrong choice, what if he is not what am looking for...?
What if i want more and he doesnt want to go all the way.? Is he my fate,?
Am I just overdoing this?
How i can trust my self, with a stranger in a strange city...?
When i go to this city, I have to lie to my family. If I told the truth they will expect me to marry him,That will be unfair for him, i dont want to put him or I in such situations. I just want to know nd kill the curiosity, who is the man in the iron mask and the voice behind the line.
Is he my destiny?
All this is just a big puzzle, that i need to uncode..
I pray to Allah, and ask him to make it simple and easy to make the best decision.May be he is the one, may be he is not.I will just let nature take its course.
Allah(SWT) knows best, and i live it up to Thee.
I just hope for the best...Inshallah.
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
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3 comments:
Salaams,
First off I think you are heading in the right direction i.e consulting Allah on this. The fact that you are hesistating should be a warning bell that uncounsciously you sense something is wrong with the trip. Trust your gut. There are some paths in life that you just have to walk on and no matter what map/post you are given you will still fall into some holes. Use the tools set out for your life; sunnah and Quran and you will make the right decision.
Why travel when he could take the ticket he's offering and come to your town? Having coffee at lunch hour or just after work is harmless and will give you a chance to study him in person. You don't have to make any decisions at this moment and there is no rush towards anything. Just take your time and commit to nothing more than an hour at a Starbuck's and let him assume the cost of getting there.
Sleep deepraved & Aya,
Thanks for being there, and advising me of what to do. I am facing some tough decisions...
I guess, time will tell and hope for the best,
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