A friend in need, is a friend indeed.

When you think the word "friend", The first thing that pops to your mind is someone who will always be there for you through thick and thin and in good times and bad.
So who is a friend?
In my opinion, i don't believe if there is a such a person who exists. A friend is actually your parents,siblings.A friend should be your guardian angel. Everyone wants to take an advantage of one another. When you actually see someone getting close to you, hanging out with you just know something is up.
I can actually say a good friend, is the one who you grew up with since kindergarten or your early child hood and has been in your life till now. They have stuck by you through sunshine and rain.
Life is all about ups and downs and risks. Without them, it will be as boring as you can imagine.
You have to really choose your friends carefully and wisely.

I can say this with experience, I have trusted allot of people in my life to the point that i can never trust again. They have let me down and I lost hope. This wasn't a one time experience. I should have learnt through my mistakes, but i was so naive and i got bitten. My excuse is since i dont have an older sister i could talk to, advise me and warn me;thats the reason of my fall. I had to learn the hard way, I kept repeating the same mistakes over and over. Well, Once bitten, twice shy...third time Shame on you. I am taking the initiative and advising all the girls out there. Keep all the secrets to yourself and never share with anyone. Once you tell someone its no longer a secret. Keep in mind there are consequences with everything in life. Play smart and keep Allah in everything you do, and Inshallah you will succeed in life. For he will guide you to the right path.

My father is one of the greatest guy i know, actually he is the greatest guy i will ever know.
He used to see me bustling with girl friends, alot of girls in my room chit chatting, giggling and ofcourse this was all about boys. He was really worried of what i will turn up to be, for he was a single father taking care of three daughters and one niece so a total of four girls ranging 17-22. He had the hardest job and task one could ever have.
He had to juggle between his work and being a home maker since my mom had to move to another country.There is no way anyone could trust girls in a house together for a long period of time without supervision. Alot of somali elders, be parents, guardians dont believe in freedom for young girls they believe they should be protected from the hungry wolves.

Being in a Muslim all girl school, definately you will make friends and every one in school had different personalities.There were the smart ones (they know the purpose of going to school) and there were the other ones(hippies). Majority of them, were only thinking of marriage and were readily engaged just waiting to get done with their exams and planning their weddings. Suprisingly i couldnt understand why should one go to school at all, If all this is implanted in their heads.
My school was popular for it had all the fly and hot girls and so every boy in town wanted to get a piece of us. Then, School was all about boys.. and believe me that was trouble. Wherever there is a lot of girls just run for your life.

One of my dearest friend got engaged. Her fiance was what everyone could dream of.He was Ok looking, i wont say fly but just average. He's successful and single. This *jama* guy was actually abroad finishing his studies. As soon as they were both done, their union will commence.
One day my so called best friend called me and asked me to play a prank on her boy. Since she didnt know him that well due to the fact that their union was all planned out by their parents. She was not feeling him at all and it was all about getting blessings from her parents.
She asked me to call her *MAN* and pretend that Iam into him and the fact that i like him alot and want to date him. For being a good friend that I am, I agreed to this plan. She needed a push to make her feel and realise that she wasnt making the biggest mistake in her life once he co-operates and acknowledges that he is unavailable. That was what we were hoping for,.right??
Little did i know that this plan was actually wrong and wasnt a good idea.I called * jama* up and really talked to him, he was nice and may i say very inviting. which was a bad sign for starters. I told him all that crap that you can imagine; i saw him on the mall, and i couldnt help but to notice him, he was on my mind and ofcourse that i want to meet him and get to know him better.
The big question popped up, " Hey Babes, Are you single??" I was expecting the big N to the O. and he told me straight up and frankly that he is very single and ready to mingle,available, no strings attached bla bla. I almost chocked, speechless and in total shock. I couldnt believe my ears.I had to make him repeat his sentence all the time just to be very clear. He had no idea, that we were setting him up.
I didnt know what to do, i was confused so i decided to talk to my cousin about it. She was not supportive and very stark raving mad of what i have done. Not to forget my freind was waiting for my response regarding this matter. Should i tell her, should i not.??i couldnt sleep that night..
The next morning i called her up, she couldnt wait to talk to me. I could tell in her voice.I didnt want to disappoint her and tell her that this guy is a DAWG and so i told her what her ears wanted to hear. (your man is very faithfull)At that time, I knew i put myself into a double jeopardy.

This guy was on top of the world,cloud nine. He was so into himself and he couldnt stop calling me.i ignored his calls alot of times and then one day i was with his *fiance* my friend at a wedding reception and he called her, they talked it was so so lovey dovey.A few min later, my cell rings. Caller ID is private. So i decide to pick up not to realise that the end of the line would be *him*. The line was not clear and ofcourse at any party they would be noises, music. This guy was really smart, so he immeadiatley knew that i was at the same wedding with his future wife and so he called her up and told her that he would come pick her up when she is ready to go.
Hours later he called her up, let her know that he was outside the parking lot waiting for her. The prank happened about two months before the party. So this incident was long gone and forgotten.
My friend asked me to follow her outside. I didnt know that her potential husband was outside, so i see an average guy in a blue truck, so she intoduces us and we shake hands. i stepped back and i was so uncomfortable. Not so long ago, i was talking to this guy i just didnt like his presence there.
Seconds later, My hand bag starts making some sounds,yeh my phone was ringing. So he immeadiately knew i was the one who pranked him. I couldnt tell who was calling me, because of the caller id was private.On their way home, he started to say all the things he could possibly say about me. He told her that we went out for a date,clubbing with me and i asked him out and i insisted to dump his fiance and he should marry me instead.
They say a coin has two sides and so she didnt know who to believe and she opted to pick and choose her partner and not me.I dont blame her for that,I know i would have done the same thing if i was in her position.She was blinded by love and the fact that i wasnt honest to her on the get go. All these things wouldnt have happened only if i was a true friend. I have learnt a big lesson, that honesty is always the best policy.Although we havent been tight like we used to and of course she wont trust me like she used to. She will be always in my heart.
The last thing i wanted was to be branded the title " MAN SNATCHER". I have alot of respect for her. I did this for her, to be a friend when shes in need and that was what i was trying to accomplish.According to my bad judgement i was not what i was supposed to be,

"A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FREIND IN DEED"!